Louise Ryder Ackerman, 68, known as “Kitty” to some, passed away peacefully on Jan. 30 in Frisco, Texas.
She was born on Oct. 23, 1956, in Kansas City, Missouri, to John Jacob and Elaine Baum Ryder.
Louise's life was a testament to her deep compassion and unwavering commitment to her family and community by serving others. She graduated from the Barstow School in Kansas City and pursued her passion for understanding people by studying psychology and criminal justice at American University in Washington, D.C. She later earned a master’s degree in gerontology from Trinity University in San Antonio, Texas, and used her expertise to advocate for policies that improved the lives of the elderly.
In San Antonio, she met Russell Ackerman, the love of her life, at a volleyball game at the Jewish Community Center. Their 34-year marriage was filled with love and laughter, as they built homes together in several cities, including San Antonio, Dallas and Kansas City, and raised two remarkable children: Emily, a real estate agent in Chicago, and Benjamin, a nurse anesthetist in New York City. She also cherished their canine companions, Captain and Leo.
Louise’s career was centered around helping others. Her work in elderly services earned her recognition from the National Association of Area Agencies on Aging for outstanding contributions. She later became the executive director of the Jewish Community Archives of Greater Kansas City and eventually trained in mediation, co-founding a part-time mediation practice. She generously volunteered her time with organizations such as Habitat for Humanity, Restart Homeless Shelter, Meals on Wheels and Safehome, as well as her children's schools.
Beyond her professional and volunteer work, Louise’s creative spirit found expression in creating beautiful decorative glass art, bringing joy to those around her. Louise also loved the outdoors, reading, traveling, bicycling, exploring and learning about different cultures and backgrounds. Her curiosity enriched her experiences and deepened her connections with people from all walks of life.
She is survived by her devoted husband, Russell; her cherished children, Benjamin and Emily (Brian Saltzberg); her loving sisters, Joan Ryder (Robert Ludwig) and Suzanne Beatus; her mother-in-law, Jackie Ackerman; her brothers-in-law, Shawn Ackerman (Chi) and Darin Ackerman (Ally); her cousins, Jonathan Baum (Sarah) and Barbara Kovacs Wright (Terry); and many beloved nieces and nephews.
Louise was a truly special person — benevolent, intuitive, selfless and funny. Her kindness knew no bounds, always putting others — especially her children and husband — before herself and offering a listening ear or a helping hand without hesitation. She had an unwavering maternal instinct and incredible intuition, effortlessly understanding the needs of those around her and offering wisdom in the most unexpected moments. Her sense of humor was lighthearted and infectious, bringing laughter and warmth wherever she went. And with her endearing charm, she had a way of making everyone feel loved and appreciated — as if they had known her for years. Louise’s presence was a gift, and her spirit will live on in the countless lives she touched.
A celebration of her life will be held in the spring in Kansas City. In her memory, contributions can be made to Jewish Family Service of Greater Kansas City (5801 W. 115th Street, Suite 103, Overland Park, KS 66211) or a charity of your choice.
