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A is Alison, Adam, Abigail, Asa and now Amelia in the Kaye family. Baby Amelia Esther Kaye, the third child for Alison and Adam Kaye, was born at 10:10 a.m. Thursday, Jan. 10, at Shawnee Mission Medical Center and is The Chronicle’s First Jewish Baby for 2013.

Proud papa Adam said the little girl — who weighed 7 pounds, 1 ounce and measured 20.5 inches long at birth — was named this past Saturday at BIAV. Her Hebrew name is Amalia, which means Hashem’s work. Adam pointed out that her Hebrew name is very appropriate and relates to Vaeira, which is the Torah portion that was read on the day the baby was named. In that portion G-d is beginning his work for the redemption in Egypt by sending the first seven plagues to Egypt in homes of forcing Pharaoh to let the Israelites leave Egypt.

It’s coincidental that Adam, Alison and their other two children have English names that begin with A. They chose to name their oldest daughter, who will be 4 next month and was born in Philadelphia, Abigail simply because they liked the name. Son Asa, who is 2 and attends the Jewish Community Child Development Center along with his older sister, is named after a grandparent.

“So we had to give Amelia an A name so she wouldn’t feel left out,” Adam explained.

Amelia, who was due Jan. 7, has been a good baby according to her mother. Her siblings are also adjusting well to the new addition, who has brown hair and gray eyes.

“They love her. Abigail is now calling herself the biggest sister and has held her a few times. Asa is a little young and doesn’t quite get it yet,” Adam said.

The Kayes are active members of BIAV and are among the next generation of Kansas City’s Jewish leaders to be honored on Sunday, Jan. 27, at the annual Purim Gala. They moved here in 2009 — he is a general and trauma surgeon at Overland Park Regional Medical Center and she is a pediatric plastic surgeon at Children’s Mercy Hospital — and have no family members living in the area. So friends at BIAV have stepped in to provide helping hands as their shul family.

“Friends slept over at our house for two nights while we were delivering and the first night after she was born, taking our older two children to school and everything. BIAV has a food list and they are giving us a meal every other day so we don’t have to worry about making food or feeding our kids,” Adam said. “All we’ve heard is how can we help? Let me take your kids away from you for a little while. Our kids have had lots of play dates.”

In fact Adam said BIAV played a big role in their decision to stay in Kansas City.

“I came here for training,” he said, “and we decided to stay afterwards.”

In celebration of Amelia’s birth, the Kaye family received the following prizes, provided by Chronicle advertisers:

• BabyCakes — Cupcake

• Cigar & Tabac, Ltd. — “It’s a Girl” cigars

• Craig Sole Designs — Bouquet

• Cosentino’s Price Chopper — $25 gift certificate

• Gates Bar-B-Q — $25 gift certificate

• Irish Crystal Co. — Silver-plated Pull Duck Bank

• Johnson County Community College — Pair of show tickets to either “The Swingle Singers” or “Stories from Lake Wobegon” with Garrison Keillor

• Klipped Kippahs — Officially licensed Kansas City Royals Pro-Kippah

• Nall Hills Liquors — a bottle of kosher wine

• Riley’s Phillips 66 — $25 gift certificate

• Sheridan’s Lattés & Frozen Custard — Gift card

• Urban Table — $25 gift card

Purim Gala was created in 1998 by a group of spirited young volunteers who wanted to ensure that their synagogue — Congregation Beth Israel Abraham & Voliner — would survive and flourish. In past years, the Purim Gala has honored men and women from the broader community who have received the Mordechai Award for service to the Jewish people.

Now those young volunteers are all grown up, says Rabbi Daniel Rockoff, spiritual leader of BIAV. “The logo of our shul is ‘in the path of our fathers.’ One of our most important traditions is making sure there is a foundation in place for the next generation.”

So this year’s Purim Gala does not have a singular honoree. There are no individuals being honored, but rather the entire up-and-coming generation of young adults under the age of 40 will be recognized on Sunday evening, Jan. 27, at Oakwood Country Club. These honorees consist of homegrown Kansans who have moved back as well as transplants from outside K.C. and beyond America’s borders.

“As we look around, there is a wealth of young, educated spiritual individuals who are making a commitment to their families, their professions and their synagogue,” Rabbi Rockoff added. “They have joined the BIAV family and provide our best hope for the future.”

Highlighting the evening’s program is Rona Novick, Ph.D., the director of the Fanya Gottesfeld Heller Doctoral Program at the Azrieli Graduate School of Jewish Education and Administration at Yeshiva University. She’ll address “Youthful Wonder: What We Can Learn from Children.”

“The most important advice I have for parents, grandparents and anyone who works with children is to enjoy them, and find the magic and amazing core that’s in every child, although sometimes hidden,” Novick said.

“Love them at every age and every stage, and be open to learn from them and grow with them,” she added.

Novick also serves as co-educational director of the Hidden Sparks program, providing consultation to day schools and yeshivas. She has developed the Alliance for School Mental Health at North-Shore Long Island Jewish Medical Center and served as its director for eight years, authoring the BRAVE bully prevention program for schools.

Novick is the author of a book for parents: “Helping Your Child Make Friends,” and editor of the series “Kids Don’t Come With Instruction Manuals.” As the mother of three sons, she credits much of her knowledge and skill to on-the-job training.

“Increasingly our Jewish schools and Jewish communities are recognizing how important it is to create a welcoming culture that embraces everyone, values everyone, and recognizes that we are, all of us, b’tzelem Elokim, made in G-d’s image.”

As part of the congregation’s tribute to its youth, a one-of-a-kind chuppah is being designed and created by the shul’s own master quilter and seamstress, Judi Solomont. The chuppah, which will be embroidered with the names of children, grandchildren and even great-grandchildren, will be used for the special children’s aliyah during Simchat Torah services each year.

Members of the community are welcome to add names as well, noted Margie Robinow, this year’s Purim Gala chair. “There are many Kansas Citians who can recall going to services with their bubbes and zaydes at BIAV. We hope they’ll help us continue the tradition by making a donation to have their families’ names embroidered on our children’s chuppah.”

Solomont explained, “We’re using an oversized tallit that will cover the entire bimah, allowing for more children to be blessed. It will be very colorful, with different colored threads used to embroider names.”

Solomont, who has been sewing since she was a child, added, “I learned on my grandmother’s treadle sewing machine. Seven years ago I discovered machine embroidery and that has taken me in a new direction. Now I can not only make gifts, I can also personalize them with names and dates in Hebrew and English.”

The design of the tallit will be unveiled at Purim Gala, which begins at 5 p.m. with cocktails, musical entertainment and a Chinese auction. An elegant kosher dinner follows at 6 p.m. This is the second year the Purim Gala is being held at Oakwood, site of the 2012 Gala that honored Todd Stettner, executive director of the Jewish Federation of Greater Kansas City. He is making the Mordechai Award presentation this year.

Tickets begin at $180 per person. Donations of $3,600, $5,000 and $10,000 include the full package of an ad, photo message and 10 tickets. To place a message in the journal, add names to the chuppah, or purchase tickets, call Barry Rubin in the BIAV office, 913-341-2444, email or visit www.biav.org/purimgala.

The Jewish Community Relations Bureau|American Jewish Committee will present an evening with the Israel Ambassador to the United States, Michael Oren, at 7:30 p.m. Monday, Jan. 28, at the Jewish Community Campus. He is expected to speak about “Challenges Facing Israel in 2013.”

Doors will open at 7 p.m.; there is no charge for the event. For more information, contact Marvin Szneler at 913-327-8126.
The ambassador will be in Kansas to present the Landon Lecture at Kansas State University in Manhattan, Kan., on Tuesday, Jan. 29.

“It is a great honor for us to again host an Israel Ambassador to the United States,” said JCRB|AJC Executive Director Marvin Szneler. “We last hosted Israel Ambassador to the U.S., The Honorable Danny Ayalon, in 2004.”

Szneler said it has been particularly gratifying working together to plan this event with Kansas Gov. Sam Brownback’s office, U.S. Sen. Pat Roberts’ Chief of Staff Chad Tenpenny, as well as “folks with the Landon Lecture at KSU, and of course, Consul General of Israel to the Midwest Roey Gilad, who will accompany the ambassador.”

“These are longstanding relationships which are important to our community,” Szneler continued.

Oren was appointed as Israel’s ambassador to the United States in June 2009. In this capacity, he meets regularly with officials in the White House, the State Department and the Pentagon, as well as with Members of Congress from both parties. He regularly briefs Prime Minister Benjamin Netanyahu and other Israeli leaders on issues vital to the U.S.-Israel alliance.

Oren has been instrumental in securing U.S. support for Israel’s defense and upholding Israel’s right to security and peace. He frequently represents Israel in the American media, appearing on numerous television programs and authoring some 40 articles in major publications. He has spoken on dozens of university campuses, visited Jewish communities across the United States, and launched outreach initiatives to the Latino, African-American, Christian and Muslim leaderships. The Forward named him one of the five more influential Jews in America and the Jerusalem Post listed Oren as one of the 10 most influential Jews worldwide.

Born in the United States and educated at Princeton and Columbia, Oren has been a visiting professor at Harvard, Yale and Georgetown, and was a Distinguished Fellow at the Shalem Center in Jerusalem. He has received fellowships from the British and Canadian government as well as a Moshe Dayan Fellowship form Tel Aviv University and the Lady Davis Fellowship at the Hebrew University. His last two books, “Power, Faith, and Fantasy: America in the Middle East from 1776 to the Present” and “Six Days of War,” were both New York Times bestsellers. He has won the Los Angeles times History Book of the Year Award and the National Jewish Book Award.

In Israel, Oren served as an officer in the Israel Defense Forces, in the paratroopers in the Lebanon War, a liaison with the U.S. Sixth Fleet during the Gulf War, and an IDF spokesman during the Second Lebanon War and the Gaza operation in January 2009. He acted as an emissary to Jewish refuseniks in the Soviet Union, as an adviser to Israel’s delegation to the United Nations, and as the government’s director of Inter-Religious Affairs. He was a gold medal-winning athlete in the Maccabiah Games.

Oren and his wife, Sally, have three children.

Kansas Citians will have a chance to meet world-renowned photographer Gil Cohen-Magen at a variety of events Tuesday and Wednesday, Feb. 5 and 6. With a portfolio that ranges from the most violent scenes of the Israeli-Palestinian conflict, to the closed world of ultra-Orthodox Chasidim, Cohen-Magen has captured the many faces of the Holy Land through his lens. His photographs have graced the front pages of some of the world’s leading newspapers and magazines, including The Washington Post, The Guardian and Haaretz.

Cohen-Magen spent 10 years working with the Reuters news agency. One of his photographs was selected as one of the top 100 photographs of the decade. He has exhibited his photographs in Europe and in Israel, and will stop in Kansas City as part of his U.S. tour.

“I’ve always been a great fan of his work, and I thought it was important to bring Gil to Kansas City, as he gives a very different perspective on many aspects of life in Israel,” said Ophir Hacohen, Israel Emissary to Kansas City, who is in Kansas City as part of the local Jewish Federation’s emissary program.

Cohen-Magen will hold three public lectures during his visit:

Images of Faith in the Holy Land at Plaza Public Library, 6 p.m., Feb. 5: This special event will bring a focus to the multi-faith communities of Israel, including Cohen-Magen’s rare, exclusive photos of the ultra-Orthodox Jewish community in Israel, as well as Christian and Muslim celebrations. Gain insight, as you’ve never seen it before, into multi-culturalism through Cohen-Magen’s stories and images, which include everything from a Syrian-Druze wedding to Purim and Passover celebrations, to the celebration of Eid Al-Adha. Reception begins at 6 p.m., followed by the program and book signing at 6:30 p.m.

Co-sponsored by the Kansas City Public Library System, the Greater Kansas City Interfaith Council and the Jewish Federation of Greater Kansas City, as an event celebrating United Nations International Interfaith Harmony Week.

Chassidic Courtyards lecture at JCC Lunch & Learn, noon, Feb. 6: This series is a never-before done photographic study of the ultra-Orthodox in Israel over the past 10 years, including religious and cultural rituals and ceremonies. The Lunch & Learn will offer an intimate discussion of Cohen-Magen’s exclusive access to this world. Bring your own lunch and enjoy a rare cultural insight into Israel’s ultra-Orthodox communities.

Co-sponsored by the Jewish Community Center’s Jewish Life & Learning and the Jewish Federation. For more information about the Lunch & Learn, contact Jill Maidhof, 913-327-8077.

Shooting Under Fire at Corinth Public Library, 3 p.m., Feb. 6: You may never view the news the same way again. This program deals with the challenges of capturing the news as a photojournalist. Get insight into the judgment, journalistic ethics and inspiration that go into each photograph.

Co-sponsored by Jewish Federationand Johnson County Public Library.

All lectures are free of charge and open to the public; no registration required. Each event will end with a book signing; Cohen-Magen’s book and an assortment of prints will be on sale at each event.

In addition to his public lectures, Cohen-Magen will also have an opportunity to teach students at Hyman Brand Hebrew Academy.

“Our mission at Jewish Federation is to sustain and enhance Jewish life at home and around the world,” said Hacohen. “I viewed this as an opportunity to enrich all of our lives by bringing a relevant taste of Israel to Kansas City. I look forward to hearing his incredible experiences myself.”

For more information about Cohen-Magen or his lecture events, contact Ophir Hacohen at 913-327-8124 or .

“S’up?” In modern slang, the term is short for “what’s up?” or “what’s new?”

Mention “S’Up” at Village Shalom, however, and you’ll be directed to Dick Greenberg’s twice-weekly discussion group on current events. Covering news stories and hot topics of all kinds, S’Up has become such an attraction for Village Shalom residents that the group recently moved to a larger space on the retirement community’s main campus to accommodate the turnout.

The concept of S’Up arose shortly after Greenberg took up residency in his Village Shalom apartment in early 2012. At mealtime, he regularly joins fellow resident Sam Gould at a table in the assisted-living dining room. The two enjoy discussions about sports and current events, but Gould’s poor eyesight and hearing affect his ability to get the latest news from the paper or broadcast media.

Greenberg recounted that he was “originally going to read the newspaper to Sam so he would know ‘what’s up’ — what’s going on in the world.”

It then occurred to him that such a project could have a broader reach. “I realized there are other people here who have some of the same limitations. But they still have such a contribution to make. They’ve been there, thought about it, experienced it, and have an opinion.”

And so S’Up took shape to give participants “an opportunity to discuss current events and important issues,” Greenberg said. “And they do. They have an opinion on damn near everything.”

S’Up caught on “the very first day, just by word of mouth. Seven people showed up.” Its popularity grew, and the typical attendance is now somewhere between 15 and 20 at each session.

As moderator of the group, Greenberg gleans discussion topics from recent headlines or news items of interest. “I get on my iPad,” said the 79-year-old, who is adept at surfing the Internet. “My first stop is the Kansas City Star, where I get local sports and news. Then I go to USA Today, CNN, The New Yorker, Huffington Post, New York Times — even Al Jazeera. If I find an article I like, and think it would create some discussion, then I save it.”

He demonstrated by scrolling through page after iPad page of saved links to articles on politics, sports, business, medicine and the like. He noted that medical news is a popular topic, given that the participants are “all involved, from an age and physical standpoint.”

Regarding politics, “everybody has an opinion and they’re not afraid to voice it,” he said. “Sports appeals to the guys,” although occasionally the women in the predominantly female group will chime in on the topic. And when the discussion gets a little too heated on any issue, Greenberg interjects his own thoughts to guide the conversation back to calmer waters.

“I get energized by doing this,” he said. “It gives me an excuse to spend my time reading the newspaper and watching TV” to come up with topics for discussion. “I used to do that at breakfast clubs. Even as a kid, I talked about current events with my dad. We would talk about what’s going on in the world, and then he would ask me, ‘How do you feel about it?’”

Greenberg has always had a penchant for exploring new ideas. A law-school graduate, he never practiced law but instead went to work for his family’s business. He has developed, owned and managed businesses in bag manufacturing, carpet manufacturing, retail home centers and janitorial services. And though he lives in a retirement community, he is far from being retired.

“If you can stay involved, you can be a part of the world. The world is going on, whether you’re involved or not. You have to keep in touch. It takes a real effort. Culture has changed so much. It’s so different now — if you let it pass by, you’re just waiting to sink.”

Sam Gould, on whose behalf the S’Up group began, is pleased to be involved. “It’s something I can grasp. Until recently, I would read the newspaper in its entirety, and the group is helping me immensely to keep on top of the news of the day. Dick does a great job. He’s very good at moderating the program.”

RABBI MANDL OFF TO ROME — When Rabbi Herbert Mandl discussed his retirement plans late last spring, one of the things he said he planned to do was travel. He also mentioned he would get the rare opportunity to conduct research at the Vatican Library. His current travel schedule includes Rome and Vatican City, where he will continue his research on Jewish and Catholic marriage law, the topic of his doctoral dissertation. He’s been granted entrance into the rare manuscript room — unique for a rabbi researching in the Vatican Library. He’s very excited for the experience and the chance to see rare Medieval manuscripts. He’s expected to have two full weeks to do research, and will speak about what he learned at Kehilath Israel Synagogue on Saturday, March 9.

LIVE ELECTION COVERAGE — As a service to English-speaking Jews (and non-Jews) everywhere, the Seymour J. Abrams OU Jerusalem World Center in Jerusalem will present a live Israeli election webcast jointly with Arutz Sheva, Israel National News, from the Israel Center. The webcast will appear both on www.ou.org and www.israelnationalnews.com. It will air from 1 to 6 p.m. Central Standard Time on Tuesday, Jan. 22. Rabbi Avi Berman, executive director of OU Israel, will anchor the program. Much like the coverage of the recent U.S. presidential election, the webcast is expected to offer expert opinions on voting trends and the possible outcome, including the forming of the governing coalition, which can take weeks.

SHARE YOUR RECIPES WITH MANISCHEWITZ — From now until Feb. 4, readers may enter the 7th Annual Man-O-Manischewitz Cook-Off for a chance to win the $25,000 Grand Prize, which includes Maytag® appliances, cash and an expense-paid trip. This year, the contest will be held at the Manischewitz® manufacturing plant and headquarters in Newark, N.J., giving contestants and guests a peek inside their state-of the-art production facilities. The Cook-Off encourages at-home chefs to experiment with kosher products while preparing delicious recipes that could be a new family favorite, or one that has been shared for generations. To enter, log onto www.manischewitz.com, and click on the Cook-Off Banner to submit your recipe. The recipe must adhere to kosher guidelines, be prepared in under an hour, have no more than nine ingredients, which must include one of the Manischewitz® All-Natural broth flavors — new Turkey, Chicken, Reduced Sodium Chicken, Beef and Vegetable — plus one additional Manischewitz® product. Four finalists will be chosen by the judging panel and five semi-finalists will be posted on www.manischewitz.com from Feb. 21 through Feb. 28, allowing consumers to vote online to select the fifth finalist. For complete contest details, go to www.manischewitz.com.

FEATURED PHOTOGRAPHER — Gloria Baker Feinstein’s photography was featured in the “60 Second Exposure” section of the December issue of Black + White Photography, a magazine published in the UK. The spread includes an interview and four of her photographs. She said “the sumptuously printed magazine is one of the few printed photo magazines left and celebrates the beauty and tradition of black and white work.” The four photographs are all from 1999, three made in New Mexico and one in Mexico.

The excitement and enthusiasm in the voice and face of Joey Horak is very heart warming. The 16-year-old high school student is participating in Na’ale, an elite educational program in Israel.

His path to this program began while he was on an NCSY trip to Israel two summers ago. At that time Joey, the son of Congregation BIAV members Aliza Horak and Steve Horak, started to think about his future.

“It changed my perspective from playing football and wrestling to wanting to be in Israel,” he said thoughtfully.

Just by chance his mother had learned about the Na’ale: High School Program in Israel, which formerly was for youngsters from South Africa, South America and Europe and was expanding to include American teenagers.

Up until now Joey has had a fairly typical American educational experience. He attended Hyman Brand Hebrew Academy from kindergarten through fifth grade, transferring to public school in sixth grade. He completed elementary school at Brookridge Elementary School, attended Indian Woods Middle School and Shawnee Mission South High School as a freshman and sophomore.

The Na’ale program in Israel interested Joey, so he traveled to Chicago for admissions testing. At the same time he made plans to visit Israel again this past summer on the NCSY Kollel six-week program. A program for boys only, it’s described as an intense learning program as well as “world class sports and a full schedule of great trips.”

“I realized on that trip that Israel is where I wanted to be,” said Joey last month on a quick visit to Jerusalem.

While Joey was in Israel with NCSY, he learned he had been accepted to Na’ale. At the end of the summer he returned to Overland Park to see family and returned to Israel in the fall to start the program.

Na’ale is run by the Jewish Agency’s Department of Immigration and Absorption. It offers youngsters who display academic excellence the opportunity to have a fully-subsidized three-year high school program in Israel.

Na’ale gives the students free transportation to and from Israel once, room and board, books and supplies and a monthly stipend. If students choose to return to their homes during the intervening summers, that transportation is at their expense.
The program is based on Kibbutz Shaalvim, which houses the Shaalvim educational campus comprised of a yeshiva, a kollel, a teachers’ college, boys’ and girls’ high schools and an elementary school. It is located seven miles south of Modiin, four miles east of Gezer and 13 miles northwest of Jerusalem. Surrounding the campus is Nof Ayalon, an Orthodox community of 500 families.

Students in Joey’s group include one from Germany, one from South Africa, one from South America, two from Mexico and several from the United States. They live three to a room in a dormitory and Joey’s roommates are from Denver and South America.

At school, Joey gets up 6:30 a.m. He attends services, breakfast and then classes all through the day where the main focus is on Hebrew. (They have 17 hours of ulpan a week plus Judaic subjects.) They also have secular studies of mathematics, science and English. After dinner, there are additional programs.

Most of their free time is on weekends, although one evening a week they are also free.

“We usually go to Modiin to the movie theatre, the mall and the food court or for falafel and pizza,” said Joey about his free time.

“My friends and I also go to Jerusalem (14 miles away) to the Kotel (Western Wall) or to hang out. The school can also set us up with families for Shabbat.”

After three months, Joey said his Hebrew is pretty good.

“I can get around in Hebrew, and a lot of my friends are Israelis and we speak only Hebrew. My big problem is they often want to speak to me in English.”

Reflecting on this experience so far, Joey said, “it’s amazing that I can do high school in Israel, and learn Hebrew so quickly, and have Israeli friends, and be in a different culture, and experience what most people don’t get to experience.”

Joey is a sophomore in the Na’ale program and if he remains in it until he graduates, he will not be required to do anything. At this point, Joey doesn’t know what his plans will be. But if he decides to stay in Israel, he will have several choices. He can attend either a hesder yeshiva (a yeshiva where they combine academic studies with army service), a regular yeshiva, or he can enlist in the Israeli army.

Haidee Clauer, a seventh-grade student at the Hyman Brand Hebrew Academy, was one of 12 students from across the country to win an iPad in the “Voices & Visions” art initiative contest sponsored by the Harold Grinspoon Foundation. HGF is the sponsor of PJ Library, a very popular program coordinated locally by the Jewish Federation of Greater Kansas City.

Haidee was presented with her iPad at a ceremony held at HBHA last month. Two other girls from the area, both 9 when they entered the contest, received honorable mention for their posters — Abigail Kreisler and Sarah Gordon.

The “Make-A-Poster” contest was open to children ages 7 to 12. The top 12 winners received iPads. Voices & Visions invited children from across the United States to make a drawing, painting or collage expressing their idea of Tikkun Olam — making our world a better place.

Haidee’s poster “shows people working as a team to clear away the clouds and paint a rainbow (symbolizing happiness).”

“The main message I wanted to convey is that bad things happen but you have to be able to go out and make good things happen,” Haidee explained.

Haidee, the daughter of Mirra Klausner and Todd Clauer, entered the contest because it sounded interesting and she really likes art. Originally she thought she was one of 12 finalists for an iPad before she and her family realized each of the 12 finalists actually won an iPad. She is enjoying her prize.

“It’s so awesome,” she said. “It’s real easy to do research on for school and check my emails.”

Karen Gerson, CAJE/Jewish Federation’s director of informal education, noted that it is very exciting that one of the 12 winners and two of the runner ups in this inaugural contest are budding Kansas City artists.

Haidee’s poster, along with the other 11 winners and 50 other runners-up, is featured on the “Voices & Visions” website. They can be viewed at www.voices-visions.org/make-poster.

The Harold Grinspoon Foundation is best known for its PJ Library program, through which 100,000 children receive free high-quality Jewish children’s books each month, thanks to a unique partnership between local Jewish communities and HGF.

The Voices & Visions program is one of HGF’s newest initiatives. In the same way that PJ Library books have brought Jewish values, traditions and history into the home, it is the foundation’s hope that these posters will continue the conversations both in the home and in community gatherings.

“The idea behind the artwork is also to feel good about being Jewish and to see a strong connection between literacy and the arts. They are cultural soul mates, and they create an opportunity to dialogue, discover and discuss,” said Madeline Calabrese, director of Voices & Visions.

Contemplating a divorce is difficult for any couple. Susan Saper Galamba, a local divorce and family law attorney, has written a book, “Don’t Burn the Underwear,” in an effort to help couples through the process.

“Even with 50 percent of marriages ending in divorce, people are embarrassed to talk about divorce if it is happening to them,” Galamba said.

“The reality is that marriage is hard work and that people need to make it a priority tends to be forgotten. … If they are going through a tough time, I hope that ‘Don’t Burn the Underwear,’ will help remind them that their marriage is worth fighting for. If on the other hand divorce is the direction that they are headed, ‘Don’t Burn the Underwear’ will provide them with concise, practical information about the divorce process in an easily understandable format.”

The most important advice Galamba would give someone who is going through a divorce is to “make decisions like you would in business, and not allow your emotions to control the divorce.” A graduate of Georgia State University Law School, Galamba has been practicing law for 22 years. She is licensed to practice in both Kansas and Missouri, and is trained in mediation and arbitration.

Galamba admits that people who have children face some different issues when they are seeking a divorce. “If you ask yourself, ‘what is truly in the best interest of my children’ prior to making decisions, you can’t make a mistake,” she said. “The caveat … is understanding that unless there is a real danger, it is important for children to have a relationship with both parents.” In her book she says that “the reality is that children are far better off living in two happy homes rather than in one miserable home.”

Galamba decided to write the book because she has seen so many people enter the process with no idea of what was going to happen or what to do when facing a divorce.

“No one ever thinks divorce is going to happen to them, and when it does they are completely unprepared,” she said. “They don’t know how to find an attorney, what information they need to gather, or what to expect. Worst of all, they can’t concentrate on anything, and are often fighting just to make it through the day. I wanted to provide a resource that was helpful to everyone.”

Being a divorce attorney is not easy partially because people employing divorce attorneys are not always behaving in a positive way.

“The most distressing part of being a divorce lawyer,” Galamba said, “is witnessing the lengths that people will go to hide the truth, and/or fight about things that they really don’t care about.”

One of these issues is an important one for the Jewish community. She has had husbands who refuse to give their wives a ‘get,’ a Jewish divorce.

“You cannot force them, and the courts cannot order it,” she said, “due to separation of church and state. But this is one of those issues that people fight over because they want to be vindictive, not because they care if their wives have a get.”

Galamba, who is a ‘third generation congregant of The Temple, Congregation B’nai Jehudah,” believes her Jewish upbringing impacts her role as an attorney. She thinks it is important to be a good person, living honestly and respectfully. Therefore it is most distressing for her when someone lies. This bothers her on a personal and Jewish level.

Her Jewish ethics also impact her when it comes to dealing with children and divorce.

“In Judaism we learn to protect our children and keep them safe,” she said. “If you allow your emotions about your ‘ex’ to impact your children, it is not the Jewish way. You don’t have to be a friend with your ex spouse, but you have to be respectful of their bond with your children.”

Her work as a divorce attorney impacts her role as a wife and a mother of two teenagers. “It has helped my marriage,” Galamba said. “It makes me aware when things happen with my husband.”

“I don’t care who you are, marriage is hard work,” she added. “Everyone goes through good and bad times. Raising children can cause such stress. It is important to learn to compromise.”

People going through a divorce need to realize that “the only person in the world you can control is yourself,” she said. “No one can control an ex-spouse, but they can control how they react and how it affects them.”

“Don’t Burn the Underwear” is available from www.dontburntheunderwear.com, Amazon.com, BarnesandNoble.com and Barnes and Noble at Town Center. It costs $5.99 for an eBook or $9.99 for a paperback.

25 YEARS OF MITZVAHS — The Temple, Congregation B’nai Jehudah’s Christmas Mitzvah Project celebrated its 25th anniversary last month. A group of volunteers from the Jewish community took shifts at the two Ronald McDonald Houses again this year, providing evening meals for the families and children who are staying at the houses from Dec. 23 through Dec. 26. Volunteers also greet and assist families, complete daily chores and tasks and answer phone calls, allowing RMHC-KC staff and regular volunteers time to be with their families during the holiday season. Coordinated by B’nai Jehudah’s Social Justice Committee, organizer Suzanne Gladney said some of the volunteers are folks who have signed up for a shift for more than 20 years while other “first-timers” joined for the first time ever this year.

ROCK WITH LEXIE — Some readers may remember Alexis (Lexie) Hallman from her time at B’nai Jehudah when she served as its youth director. Now the music director of Temple Beth Or in Raleigh, N.C., she returned to B’nai Jehudah last month as a special musical guest. She is also one of 12 finalists in the My Family Rocks contest sponsored by Hyundai and Rolling Stone Magazine. The winner will receive a new custom Hyundai Santa Fe plus a trip to the 55th GRAMMY Awards®, and will appear in a Hyundai advertisement that will be published in Rolling Stone. The winner will be chosen by online votes as well as a panel of judges. To learn more about Hallman’s entry or to vote, visit http://www.rollingstone.com/music/my-family-rocks/. Voting ends Jan. 17.

VERY IMPORTANT WOMEN — At least five members of the local Jewish community have been nominated as MAKERS, women who have made a difference in Kansas City. Three winners — chosen by votes as well as an independent panel of judges — will be featured next month on the local public television station. The Jewish women who are nominated include Roshann Parris, president & CEO of Parris Communications; Martha Gershun, executive director of Jackson County CASA; Suzanne Gladney, legal aid lawyer and activist; Jenny Isenberg, artist and owner of Eclectics Gallery; and Marilyn Strauss, founder of the Heart of American Shakespeare Festival. The featurettes will be broadcast in conjunction with the national MAKERS program, and will air in a KCPT magazine program, “The Local Show,” as well as be available on the KCPT website, Facebook and Youtube pages. To see the most up-to-date list of nominees or to vote, visit http://www.kc-makers.org/kc-makers/. Voting ends Jan. 15.

BEST KOSHER FOOD BLOG — For the second year in a row, Yosef Silver’s This American Bite has been nominated for Joy of Kosher’s magazine Best Kosher Food Blog. On the Joy of Kosher website, http://www.joyofkosher.com/best-of-kosher-2012/, his blog is described as bringing “a fresh touch to the kosher kitchen, focusing on local, seasonal and affordable ingredients.” Nominations and voting end at 11:59 p.m. EST Feb. 7. Winners will be announced Feb. 8 on JoyofKosher.com and in the March issue of Joy of Kosher Magazine. Voting takes place on the website.