Bagel Bash, the party for young adults in their 20s to 40s held annually on Christmas Eve, has been around for nearly two decades. Once the Jewish Federation of Greater Kansas City took over planning the event several years ago, it became a springboard for more popular programming for young adults.

“We want as many people as we can draw. Our goal is to outdraw last year,” said Steven Levy, who is co-chairing the event with Roy Ben-Aharon, Rachel Nachum and Alan Widman.

Since the event is always a success, drawing about 200 annually according to Widman, that is a huge goal. Of course attendance is sometimes influenced by the weather.

“Two years ago when we had that huge Christmas Eve blizzard, we still had 90 people show up,” Widman said.

It’s always a fun night, said Widman, who has been involved with Bagel Bash for more than 10 years. He continues to help plan Bagel Bash for one simple reason. He likes putting on parties.

“I’ve always wanted to give everyone a party that they can expect is going to be great every year,” he said. “We’re going to give them everything they want. We’re going to give them a good location. Good food. Good price. We’ve got a band now. We’re giving them everything they could want so they can never complain.”

Widman said as long as he’s been involved, the party has been well received. Since it’s geared to people in their 20s through 40s, he points out that college kids are also invited, as long as they are over 21.

“We want them to start coming out to Jewish Federation events. Since they are always looking for things to do while they are home for break we want them to know they are welcome at Bagel Bash,” Widman said.

He said it’s good to introduce young people to Jewish Federation activities while they are still in college.

“When they get out of college and they are looking for something Jewish they can say, ‘Hey, Federation has a lot of good things to offer,’ ” pointed out Widman, who said he’s been involved in Jewish activities all his life beginning with BBYO in high school.

Levy is co-chairing Bagel Bash for the first time this year because he enjoyed the party last year. He’s only been in Kansas City for four years, and last year was his first Bagel Bash.

“It’s a great opportunity to gather young Jewish singles, couples, professionals. It will be a lot of fun and we’re meeting on a night when we’re typically not doing anything,” said Levy, who is from Dallas originally.

Nachum, who is also co-chairing Bagel Bash for the first time this year, agreed.

“I think it’s really important for our community to bring young Jews together and being a part of that movement is something I really enjoy doing,” said the 25-year-old Nachum.

“Bagel Bash and Federation Business & Professionals activities are a great way to meet other Jewish people in the community. I have met a ton of people through these various events that I probably wouldn’t have met otherwise. I think just meeting other young Jews is really nice and these types of events are a fun way to do it,” Nachum said.

Because fun events for young people are good ways to get people interested in Jewish Federation, Widman said the organization has made d big effort over the past few years to plan Business and Professionals programs, as well as other young adult-focused programs that can be considered “can’t miss events.”

B&P started planning good speakers at good locations. We want them to be events that you don’t want to miss because your friends are going to be there. It’s going to be a good place to meet people and get to know people,” Widman said.

Levy said he enjoys going to B&P events.

“They allow me to learn about some of the businesses in the city and in the area as well as meet other Jewish people who work at these businesses. I can create contacts for whatever purposes I may need in the future. I also make friends,” Levy said.

These events, Widman said, should not be confused with singles events. But they can be places for single people to meet each other.

“It’s just another place where young people can meet. You have a great mix of people, great happy hour and get to hear a great speaker. Who knows, maybe you can make a great connection for your future,” Widman said.

B&P events are also a good way to promote Jewish Federation.

“We obviously want to promote what Federation does and hopefully create people who want to be involved in Federation the rest of their lives. The only way you can connect people to Federation is to give them a reason to start attending events,” Widman said.

As for Bagel Bash, Widman reiterates that it’s simply a fun event.

“Maybe you’ll get to see some of your old friends from high school or college or someone you haven’t seen forever and then connect with some of your current friends. It’s just a good night out,” he said.

At 45, Widman is at the upper end of the age range for attendees.

“I always joke that I get grandfathered into all the young adult events forever since I’ve been involved for so long,” he said.

About Bagel Bash

Bagel Bash 2011 begins at 8 p.m. on Saturday, Dec. 24, at the Record Bar, 1020 Westport Road, Kansas City, Mo. The cover charge includes open bar, heavy appetizers (Vaad supervised food available), and live music. Register online at jewishkansascity.org for a discounted price of $20 by noon on Dec. 23. Walk-ins are welcome for $30 at the door.
For more information, go to jewishkansascity.org, look up Bagel Bash on Facebook, or contact Vicky Kulikov at or 913-327-8112.

Bagel Bash is a collaborative effort among Jewish organizations in Kansas City. Sponsored by the Jewish Federation of Greater Kansas City, Bagel Bash is brought to the community in cooperation with AIPAC, BIAV, B’Not Or Hadassah, Congregation Beth Shalom, Congregation Kol Ami, Friends Next Dor (Congregation Beth Torah), Jewish Community Center, Jewish Federation’s Business & Professionals group, and Kehillah KC/The Temple, Congregation B’nai Jehudah.

Molly Shapiro’s first novel, “Point, Click, Love,” is being published Dec. 20. The novel is already available for pre-order on both Amazon.com and at Barnes & Noble. She’s also been chosen as an emerging author by Target. Needless to say, she’s excited.

“Target is going to carry the book in all of its stores. I’m really excited about that,” said Shapiro, who said the book will also be available at independent booksellers.

The book is being described by the publisher as a fun and sexy debut novel about four women who try to sort through the wild and complicated world of text messaging, status updates and other high-speed connections. It’s also getting good buzz throughout the world of publishing.

“Point, Click, Love is a thoroughly engaging debut novel about a group of Midwestern women grappling with the mysteries of love, marriage and children. Molly Shapiro writes with wit, insight and a light touch,” said New York Times bestselling author Tom Perrotta.

The book, a trade paperback, is being published by Ballantine, a division of Random House. It will be available for e-readers including Kindle and Nook and is being discounted by the major retailers.

“It’s nice having this big publishing house behind me. This is my first novel. I’m an unknown. There are resources that I just wouldn’t have had otherwise,” Shapiro said.

Shapiro said “Point, Click, Love” is based in Kansas City because it’s a place she knows well. She notes one character works at Sprint and those familiar with the locale will recognize other little things throughout the book.

“They’ve promoted it like Sex in the City meets the Midwest, but it’s about older women. These women don’t lead glamorous lives like Carrie Bradshaw, but they have interesting lives nonetheless. I think they are more relatable to ordinary people,” she explained.

Each of Shapiro’s characters has a particular relationship with digital communication. One character is dating using the Internet.

“Another character is anti-Facebook because her husband is just obsessed with it and it drives her crazy,” Shapiro said.

A third character is hooked on celebrity websites and the fourth is looking for a sperm donor online. Generally the chapters alternate, focusing on one character at a time.

“There are four different storylines that go all the way through, but then there are scenes when they all get together. So the book explores their friendships as well,” the author explained about the book that took about a year to conceive and write.

About the author

Shapiro explained she’s “been writing forever.” Originally she thought she would become a screenwriter and studied film at Brown University.

“I had some success. I did some screenplays for a small producer in New York City. I wrote the ‘Bob Marley Story,’ and that looked like it was going to be made for a while. But it didn’t happen,” she said.

After a while Shapiro got disillusioned by the Hollywood scene.

“I knew I didn’t want to live in LA. I knew I didn’t want to be a part of that world. And I knew that I didn’t want to depend on 100 different people to ever get anything done,” she said.

Shapiro said she decided to write fiction because she thought it would be easier to sit in her room alone and write books.

“That would be an outlet for me and I thought it would be easier to get a book published then get a movie made. So after working for a while in technical writing I decided to go to Columbia University and get my MFA in creative writing,” she said.

While she was at Columbia in 1997 she wrote a book of short stories, “Eternal City.” It was the winner of the Willa Cather Fiction Prize.

“Eternal City” was described by the Kansas City Star as “a sophisticated, polished, taut, cool, funny and sometimes quietly scary collection of stories. …it’s the first published work by Shapiro and a virtuoso performance.”

Shapiro is proud of those stories, but notes that they weren’t widely read. She’s also written two other novels that weren’t published. This time she wanted a book that would be read by more people.

But Shapiro doesn’t solely concentrate on fiction. She is a full-time professional writer who works for a variety of for-profit and non-profit organizations. She also ghostwrites fundraising and policy emails for political candidates.

“It’s hard to find time with all that to write fiction, so when things slowed down a bit during the economic downturn; I took the opportunity to write the novel. Things have since picked up again, but I’m doing my best to find the time to write my follow up novel,” she explained.

She chose to write about love in an online world because of her own personal experiences.

“The thing that inspired me was that I found myself single after getting divorced in 2007,” she said. “I was in this new world that I wasn’t really prepared for. I noticed that online communication was something that was really significant at that point. When I was a married woman with kids I wasn’t thinking about Facebook and Twitter and I certainly wasn’t thinking about online dating.”

As the mother of two, she felt limited in the options she had to meet people. She wasn’t excited about being fixed up and she didn’t want to go to bars or join a bunch of new clubs.

“So I decided that my only option was to go online because that way I could choose myself. It wouldn’t be time consuming. It wouldn’t take me away from my kids. So that’s what I did,” she said.

The experience was interesting for Shapiro, and she ultimately met someone she’s been with for more than four years.

“I got a glimpse of a world that I never would have seen otherwise. I felt that at that point I had some things to say about my experience with divorce and my experience with online dating.

I just felt like I wanted to write a novel about it,” she said.

Young and old, the members of the Kansas City Jewish community are important to Shoshana Margolies. The 17-year-old senior at the Hyman Brand Hebrew Academy regularly tutors younger students at the school and helps leads kabbalat Shabbat services at Village Shalom.

“I really like working with younger kids,” she said. “I had some trouble in school when I was younger, and when others helped me, it was really beneficial to me. I want to give somebody the chance to improve their skills (through the tutoring).”

She helps second through sixth grade students with their reading and writing skills. On Fridays, she and her brother Jacob go to Village Shalom to lead services.

“Hyman Brand students have been leading kabbalat Shabbat services for many years. A spot opened up when I was a sophomore, and I signed up right away,” she said. “I’ve made a close bond with a few of the residents there. I have about five or six people who are regulars (at services) and know me by name. I really like getting to know other members of the Jewish community. They’re really wise, and I like learning about their lives.”

Shoshana, who is a member of Kehilath Israel Synagogue, says her school is a major reason she’s become involved with Jewish community activities like the Village Shalom worship services. Within the school, she participates in many different groups. In addition to being president of the student council, Shoshana is also the yearbook editor, manager of the basketball team and has been both an actress and assistant director for the drama society.

“She has a lot of responsibility. (The students) know she’s not afraid to step in and do grunt work when it needs to be done. She helps people do things to contribute to the school environment,” said Todd Clauer, the college guidance director and student council advisor at the Academy. “She is an incredibly determined, focused and honest person in the way she does everything. She rarely seeks accolades or the spotlight for what she does. She almost downplays the work that she does to help other people.”

According to Shoshana, her work with the student council has helped her learn better time management skills while also allowing her to form closer bonds with both the students and staff at the Academy.

As yearbook editor, Margolies has also made her mark.

“The yearbook adviser feels as if Shoshana has … been able to set very firm deadlines with staff members to get work completed in a way that hasn’t been done in the last five years. She’s able to set an example for others on a consistent basis,” Clauer said.

Margolies hopes to attend either the University of Michigan or the University of Wisconsin to study either history or English and eventually work in law or business. However, before she goes to college, she plans to spend a year in Israel through a Young Judaea gap year program.

There, she’ll spend three months each in Jerusalem, Tel Aviv and the Negev studying Hebrew and other Judaic topics while also doing volunteer work.

“I feel like it’s really important to keep the Jewish spirit alive, especially in America, when we’re involved in a lot of secular activities. It’s important for kids my age to remember our heritage and what we’ve been through … it’s sort of my generation’s duty to pass that on,” she said.

She credits both of her parents, Diane and Jonathan, and her grandfather, Rabbi Morris Margolies, for encouraging her to take a keen interest in Israel

“Everything I do, my family’s responsible for that. They always push me to do more,” she said. “It’s hard to think I won’t be living at home next year, (but) I feel like I’ll be prepared. I’m really enjoying my time at home right now, though.”

Clauer has confidence that Margolies will continue to make an impact wherever she goes.

“I just think she has great potential to be a leader after high school, and she will do that with a sense of values and compassion that is nice to see,” he said. “She has a strong set of principles she lives her life by, and I think those will be appreciated and embraced by people in her future.”

MORE KC-LAS CRUCES CONNECTIONS — Last week when we told you about Rabbi Larry Karol’s installation service at Temple Beth-El in Las Cruces, N.M., we neglected to mention that its rabbi emeritus also has ties to Kansas City and The Temple, Congregation B’nai Jehudah. Rabbi Gerald Kane, who served as B’nai Jehudah’s rabbi educator from 1988-1998, went on to serve as rabbi of Temple Beth-El and has been its rabbi emeritus since 2007. Rabbi Kane also participated in Rabbi Karol’s installation ceremonies earlier this month.
Since his retirement, Rabbi Kane has continued to be an active part of the Las Cruces community. Along with Rabbi Karol, Rabbi Kane continues to serve as a member of the New Mexico State University Interfaith Council. He has taught a course in the NMSU English Department, “Jews on Screen” for the past two years. His reviews of local theatre and the Santa Fe Opera and Chamber Music Festival appear in the Las Cruces Bulletin, and he serves as a member of the patron board of KRWG FM and TV, the NPR and PBS stations in the community.
In addition, Rabbi Kane offers occasional classes at Temple Beth-El and assists Rabbi Karol on the pulpit, when needed.

TRUTH ABOUT REFUGEES — Israel’s Deputy Foreign Minister Danny Ayalon has produced another video. This one, “The Truth About the Refugees” addresses both the Palestinian refugees in Israel and Jewish refugees from Arab lands. The first two videos, “The Truth About the West Bank” and “The Truth About the Peace Process” became a viral success with almost 760,000 views. You can see the video at www.dannyaylon.com. The video was produced in cooperation with StandWithUs, an international education organization that strives to ensure that Israel’s side of the story is told in communities, campuses, libraries, the media and churches through brochures, speakers, conferences, missions to Israel and thousands of pages of Internet resources.

A HOLIDAY CAROLE — Another Jewish singer has release a holiday CD. Carole King’s newest, “A Holiday Carole” features “Chanukah Prayer.” The CD was produced by King’s daughter Louise Goffin. King is quoted as saying “Louise had the brilliant idea to take the Chanukah prayer that I learned from my parents, and they learned from their parents, and back through generations.” The result is a warm, jazz-inflected tune that brings together three generations on vocals: Carole, her daughter and her grandson.

LEVINS IN THE NEWS — Earlier this year we featured Lee and Sunie Levin, who had both recently published new books. Last month the couple was featured in the Naples Daily News about their writing and lecturing. You can read about them at http://www.naplesnews.com/news/2011/nov/17/he-writes-she-writes-north-naples-couple-keeps/. You can read Sunie’s latest advice on grandparenting within an interfaith family in this edition on page 37. Her book on the subject, “Mingled Roots,” was written 15 years ago and then revised 10 years ago at the request of the Union for Reform Judaism (then the UAHC).  Sunie reports URJ still uses the book in workshops around the country.

Rabbi Avremi Lapine may have grown up in the Crown Heights section of Brooklyn, N.Y., but he always had a soft spot in his heart for the Midwest. After all, his father, Dennis LaPine, grew up in Overland Park and his grandparents, Erwin and Janice LaPine, still live in the area. So he was considered the perfect match when it came to selecting the Lubavitch emissaries who would run the new Chabad of MU and Mid-Missouri, located in Columbia, Mo. The 25-year-old rabbi and his wife, Channy, serve as co-directors.

The couple, who were married in 2010 and have a 10-month-old son, Mendel, moved to Columbia and began getting settled in a rented two-story house about a month ago. They hosted their first official program, a Shabbat dinner for 10 students.

Rabbi Lapine is eager to begin programming in earnest when the students return to Columbia for the spring semester in January. He believes there are about 750 Jewish students among the 26,000 undergraduates and 6,000 graduate students at Missouri’s flagship public university. He guesses there are also close to 100 Jewish students attending nearby Stephens College and another handful at Columbia College.

“We’re still getting our feet wet,” he explained in a telephone interview this week. For instance the website, www.jewishtigers.com, is up, but local content isn’t available yet. And he’s meeting the students slowly but surely.

“We’re finding them and they’re finding us by word of mouth,” he said. “I learned about one student from the rabbi in Oklahoma City. Lots of students are attracted to MU and come from out of state because of its journalism school.”

The local Chabad House, headed by Rabbi Sholom Wineberg, who is also the regional director of the Chabad Lubavitch Headquarters for Kansas and Missouri, was instrumental in selecting Rabbi Lapine for this particular post and paving the way for the Columbia location.

“This was the next logical location for us. We like to spread Jewish awareness and identity wherever we see the need,” said Rabbi Mendy Wineberg, Chabad House’s program director. Two other Chabad Houses are also based in the Kansas-Missouri Region, Chabad Lubavitch of Midtown and Downtown Kansas City and Chabad Center for Jewish Life Serving KU & Northeast Kansas Communities.

“Rabbi Lapine was the perfect candidate for the Columbia position,” Rabbi Mendy Wineberg said.

The young rabbi has studied in New York, England and Australia. He was ordained in 2010 in New Jersey. They checked out the Columbia area while they were here during Passover visiting the rabbi’s grandparents.

“Channy and I always wanted to join the Rebbe’s army,” he said, referring to the Lubavitcher Rebbe, the late Rabbi Menachem M. Schneerson, who began sending rabbinical students to campuses to serve as a resource for students more than 50 years ago. Now Chabad on Campus is a home-away-from-home for tens of thousands of Jewish Students. Chabad Student Centers are active on more than 165 campuses and Chabad offers varied activities at an additional 150 universities worldwide.

Chabad Centers are sponsored by the Rohr Family Foundation, which has helped to establish Jewish centers around the world, including in the countries of the former Soviet Union and even in Israel, according to the Chabad on Campus website.

“When we got married, we decided we wanted to dedicate our lives to helping other Jewish people,” Rabbi Lapine pointed out.

The Chabad website states that its campus centers anticipate and serve the needs of the campus community on a social, educational and spiritual level. As such, Rabbi Lapine said he and his wife like to think of their Chabad House as “as the students’ home away from home.”

“We want to make sure that all the student feel comfortable here. We will always feed them and they can always talk to one of us. The boys can feel comfortable talking to me and the girls can be comfortable talking to Channy,” he said.

“No matter what, we want them to feel comfortable being Jewish and experience their Judaism whichever way they feel comfortable.”

Channy stressed that the atmosphere at Chabad House will always be warm and welcoming.

“We’ll have programs and Shabbat dinner. Most importantly we want the students to feel Jewish. They will be able to feel good about themselves and feel like they are at home where they can be themselves here,” she said.

Rabbi Zalman Tiechtel of KU Chabad said KU students were excited to learn that a Chabad had arrived at MU.

“Many of them have friends across the border who have been greatly anticipating their arrival. We believe it was surely divine intervention that just one day after the arrival of the Lapines, MU announced it will be moving from the Big 12 to join the SEC. The Jewhawks and the Tigers will now be breaking challah together,” Rabbi Tiechtel said.

While MU’s defection from the Big 12 has officially ended the rivalry between the two schools, at least for now, Rabbi Lapine said it will still exist in his family.

“My father went to KU. We’ll have a special room for him in our basement to keep up the rivalry,” he laughingly said.

Those who have students in Columbia who wish to contact Rabbi and Channy Lapine can do so at 573-442-5755.

Rabbi Yudell Reiz, the associate rabbi at Chabad of University City in San Diego for the past two years, also has ties to the Kansas City area. The 27-year-old rabbi grew up in Overland Park and attended the Hyman Brand Hebrew Academy through sixth grade.

“After that, I went away to yeshiva schools in Pittsburgh and graduated high school there. I went on to study in London, Brooklyn, N.Y., Vancouver, British Columbia, and Pretoria, South Africa, where I was ordained,” he said.

He is the son of Pamela and David Reiz and the grandson of Andrew and Zelda Reiz and Erwin and Janice LaPine, who all still live in this area. He is also the first cousin of Rabbi Avremi, the new co-director of Chabad of MU and Mid-Missouri

“I love what I do! My responsibilities include giving Torah classes, planning holiday and social events, fundraising and bookkeeping,” he said.

Rabbi Reiz works together with his father-in-law Rabbi Moishe Leider. He said the synagogue he works at has been in existence for about 30 years and has been steadily growing.

“I owe much of my success to Rabbis Sholom and Mendy Wineberg and their families, both of the Chabad House Center in Overland Park. They provided me with support and guidance throughout my journey of becoming a rabbi,” he said.

Rabbi Reiz and his wife, Leeba, have two children, 2-year-old Zevi and Rivka, who is 6 weeks old.

It’s become a tradition for Jews to perform a mitzvah on Christmas Day as a way to help others observe the holiday with family and friends. For many years Congregation Beth Shalom arranged for a variety of places for its members to participate in tikkun olam that day.

Stefanie Williams, Beth Shalom’s director of informal education and youth activities, said over the past few years it had become harder for Beth Shalom to make arrangements for such a December outreach because fewer places were interested in having groups come in to volunteer for that day only.

So this year the Conservative congregation has decided to go a different route with a family-friendly Chanukah Bash. It begins with a Chanukah Bowl-A-Thon at 2:30 p.m. at Ward Parkway Lanes. Dinner will take place at 6 p.m. at Beth Shalom in Goldsmith Hall and then a concert featuring Rick Recht follows at 7 p.m. All members of the Jewish community are invited to participate in any or all activities.

The Bowl-A-Thon

The Chanukah Bowl-A-Thon, which is chaired by Carla Oppenheimer, will benefit Jewish Family Service, Wayside Waifs and United Hebrew Congregation of Joplin, Mo. The entrance fee is $6 per person and the fee covers bowling, shoes and snacks. Participants are asked to obtain sponsors for either a flat fee or per pin (a minimum of 10 cents a pin is required.) Sponsorship forms can be downloaded from Beth Shalom’s website, www.bethshalomkc.org. Sponsors may pay in cash or write checks payable to Beth Shalom. Register either individually or with a team of four to Norm Levitan by Dec. 21 at 913-647-7283 or email . The event will take place from 2:30 to 4:30 p.m.

Oppenheimer is excited about the event and the charities it will benefit. She said the congregation’s social action committee chose these charities for a variety of reasons.

“We’ve always been concerned about Joplin,” she said of the Reform congregation in the city ravaged by a tornado in late May.

“JFS is trying to help out families this time of year to have a happy holiday,” she continued. “While it may be too late to contribute to this year’s Chanukah project, we do know they always need funds to help out at the Jewish holidays. The money can go toward next year’s holiday or give the Passover effort a head start.”

The entire day’s activities, Oppenheimer said, should appeal to all.

“It’s a very family-oriented day where we can all be together and enjoy one another,” she said.

Chanukah dinner

Once again, the entire community is invited to the dinner which is set to begin at 6 p.m. Williams said the menu will be chicken noodle soup, potato latkes and applesauce, plain pasta with margarine, salad bar and sugar cookies. The cost is $10 for adults and $8 for youth. Reservations forms are available on the website (www.bethshalomkc.org) and need to be made by Dec. 14.

“In the past we’ve done kosher Chinese, but that’s gotten expensive. We changed the menu this year to make it more affordable and family friendly,” Williams said.

Williams said that families are also urged to bring their chanukiot with them along with six candles “so we can light them together.”

The concert

Beth Shalom also traditionally sponsored a big concert on Christmas Day, Williams said, but hasn’t done so in about four years. This year the congregation decided to bring it back, featuring the popular Rick Recht. The concert is presented by Beth Shalom and the Herman & Muriel Rose Foundation. It will also be held in Goldsmith Hall and is free.

“The community is invited to the concert,” Williams said. “You don’t have to go to the dinner to go to the concert.”

Recht has performed in Kansas City several times this year, most recently on Nov. 2 for teens who participate in CAJE’s B’Yachad program.

“We decided on Rick Recht because he attracts audiences of all ages. He’s just one of those inclusive, good, kind people,” Williams said.

Following Recht’s Nov. 2 concert, he presented a breakout session to teens interested in song leading. Beth Shalom is inviting those teens to participate in the concert and join him in a few songs.

“Kids attending religious schools in the community are also learning some of his songs so they can participate in the concert as well,” Williams said.

For more information about any or all of these events, contact Williams at 913-647-7269 or Jill Goldstein at 913-647-7281.

When Anna Feldman joined the staff of Jewish Family Services as an older adult case manager a year ago, it was like reconnecting with family. It was JFS that helped to resettle Feldman’s own family in 1992 when they arrived from Odessa, Ukraine. Now, Feldman is “paying it forward” by helping people within the Jewish community.

Today, Feldman uses her own bilingual skills working primarily with Russian-speaking clients at JFS who come in seeking assistance. She’s involved in assessing their situation from a financial standpoint, helping set goals, and providing referrals for appropriate social services. Feldman is also involved in translating documents from English to Russian or Russian to English, coordinating services with other JFS programs and communicating with such entities as the Social Security Administration.

“It’s great to have Anna here at JFS,” said Don Goldman, JFS executive director. “But it’s even more wonderful to know that JFS, in cooperation with the whole Kansas City community, helped bring Anna and her family to the United States. It’s a great happy ending and a great beginning.”

Besides her role with the émigré community, Feldman coordinates JFS’ holiday projects, which help Jewish people in need celebrate the Jewish holidays.

“Jewish Family Services was an enormous help to us when we came here, providing financial assistance and case management,” said Feldman, who was just 9 years old at the time. “I remember immediately walking into a completely furnished apartment and having volunteers from the Jewish community who helped us navigate around Kansas, took us to fun activities like the movie theater, and made sure that my brother and I had everything we needed to start school.”

Feldman, who speaks Russian fluently, likes the work she does at JFS.

“I feel like I make a difference in the life of my clients and help them improve their situation, whatever that may be,” Feldman said.

It wasn’t that long ago that Feldman and her family were in the same place as those she’s assisting now. Feldman came to Kansas City with her parents, her older brother Leo, her grandmother and great-aunt. While there were challenges, Feldman’s parents were able to acclimate to their new home. Her father, Vladimir Feldman, found an engineering position that corresponded with his professional background from the former Soviet Union. Her mother, Yelena Pinzur, went back to medical school and has been practicing medicine in the greater Kansas City area since 2002.

A graduate of Blue Valley High School, Feldman went on to earn a bachelor’s degree in psychology with a clinical focus from the University of Kansas. Her brother earned an accounting degree from KU and a master’s degree from the University of Missouri-Kansas City; today he’s a CPA.

“We are very proud of our daughter and her achievements at JFS,” said Feldman’s parents. “We hope to see her continue her success there for years to come.”

Leo Feldman is proud of his sister, too.

“I’m really happy that Anna’s position with JFS allows her to make a difference in the Russian Jewish Community,” said Leo Feldman. “She really cares and I couldn’t be more proud to have a sister like her.”

In her spare time, Feldman enjoys spending time with family and friends and reading. Feldman said her work at JFS has completed the circle she started back in 1992 when she first came to Kansas City.

“I’m very lucky to work with such great people as the rest of the JFS staff,” Feldman said. “It especially means a lot to me to work for an organization that I believe in.”

Nestled back in a strip mall at the corner of State Line and 103rd Street sits an unassuming little place. Neighbor to Jaspers Italian Restaurant, this restaurant with mustard-yellow colored walls could be missed on a quick glance. However, hungry shoppers and commuters looking for an old-fashioned, family-dining atmosphere should look again, and they might notice the sign reading Jerry’s Café. Walking by the front of the restaurant, passersby may find it hard to ignore the delicious aromas of handmade cinnamon rolls wafting out the door.

Open from 6 a.m. to 3 p.m. Tuesday through Sunday, Jerry’s Café is a traditional diner serving breakfast and lunch. Jerry himself, Jerry Naster, is quick to greet patrons as they enter and to point out any dining options that the hungry customer may enjoy.

“We always keep our customers in mind, and what they would enjoy to eat,” Naster said. “It’s not fancy stuff. We keep is simple, but everything tastes really good.”

On a typical weekday afternoon, Jerry’s Café is bustling with clientele. Jerry’s has been kept small, seating approximately 44, which adds to the diner’s down home feel.

“People don’t come in because it’s a big, fancy place. People come in for the food,” Naster said. “We want everyone to feel welcome and to enjoy this as a nice, old-fashioned place.”

Though the dining area may be small, everything else comes big at Jerry’s Café. The portions are big. The attention to detail is big and welcoming. The smiles are all big. This even carries over to the condiments, evidenced when Naster brought out an enormous ketchup bottle to one table.

“This ought to do it,” he joked.

Constantly on the move, Nester bobs from table to table, chatting with patrons, joking around and answering questions. He may not know the names of all of his customers, but he certainly gives the impression of knowing them all.

“How’s work?”

“How’s the kids?”

“How’s the food?”

Everyone gets the same friendly treatment.

Jerry’s Café seems to take on the personality of its exuberant founder.

“As long as I have worked here, I have never seen one complaint from a customer,” said Yvette Rowland, a waitress with Jerry’s Café for about a year. “I think we send people home happy. Since re-opening, some people haven’t found the new location, but word of mouth is changing that. People are telling their friends. Right now, I think we are the best kept little secret around. But new people are discovering us every day.”

At different locations, the Jewish restaurant owner has been filling up patrons for the past 15 years. He originally owned a Jerry’s Woodweather Café, located in the West Bottoms, but sold it a few years ago. Unable to leave his passion for running a restaurant, Naster opened this new location 15 months ago, offering breakfast and lunch options for the local suburbanites.

“It’s been better that I hoped for,” he said of the new location. “It has smashed all of my expectations.”

Naster realized his love for running a restaurant soon after he started. The Lenexa native worked as a meat cutter for 30 years, when he decided he wanted a change. When he started, Naster says he couldn’t boil an egg. His cooking education was a trial by fire, as he learned on the job.

“I had a lot of help at the beginning,” Naster said. “Some good and some not so good. But I learned a lot.”

Now Jerry’s Café is staffed by experienced chefs and has carved out a niche with its generously-sized portions of comfort food.

“Breakfast is our big thing,” Naster said. “We get a lot of people in who want to have a good meal in the morning.

To start the day off with a hearty meal, Jerry’s Café serves pancakes the size of platters and omelets that can feed two people. For lunch, Jerry’s is well known for its Rueben sandwich and robust homemade soups. Or customers can simply chow down on a burger and fries.

“I think we make the best burgers in town,” Naster said. “I know a lot of places make those claims but I don’t care. I would put ours up against anyone around.”

The lunch rush for Jerry’s Café lasts almost until closing time at 3, and Naster stays busy, but does take a moment to consider what makes a successful restaurant.

“Serve delicious food,” he says. “That’s really it.”

COMEDY CITY — KC native Corey Rittmaster and his wife, Monique Madrid, will sit in with ComedyCity on Friday, Dec. 23, for the 7:30 p.m. performance, which is appropriate for all ages. ComedyCity is located in the Westport Flea Market, 817 Westport Road in Kansas City, Mo. Tickets can be purchased online at http://www.comedycity.cc/Tickets.html. Or you can get more info by calling the box office at 816-842-2744. ComedyCity is the competitive improv comedy show that used to be called ComedySportz. Both of the comedians started their performing careers there, before moving to Chicago about eight years ago. Most of their time recently has been spent performing with The Second City on board Norwegian Cruise Line ships in Alaska, the Caribbean and Hawaii.

MAT CATCHES MESSY CANDLE WAX — In the category of why didn’t I think of this comes the MenorahMate. I was shopping this weekend at a popular kitchen and bath chain store when I came across the MenorahMate. I picked it up and was struck by the thought conveyed on the package. It noted that we may use our beautiful heirloom menorahs and table cloths, but the beauty of the moment is ruined because we place aluminum foil underneath the menorah to catch the candle drippings. MenorahMate takes the place of the ugly aluminum, and protects linens and tables from the dripping wax and the soft backing prevents scratches on tabletops. It also features the three Chanukah blessings printed in Hebrew, English and transliteration. To clean, simply place in freezer for at least two hours then flex where wax has dripped. I was at a local synagogue gift shop on Sunday and noticed another similar product. I’m so impressed I plan to get a few as gifts this year. Happy shopping!

CANDLES PART II — A few years ago we featured Creative Candles, owned by Ken Weiner and Pam Fleischer, in Jewish Life magazine. Creative Candles has been featured in Martha Stewart Living, Martha Stewart Wedding and on The Martha Stewart Show. While Stewart was in Kansas City recently, she stopped to visit the facility. She enjoyed the visit and mentioned it on her blog. Here’s what she said:
“I even listed Creative Candles as one of my ‘secret sources’ on my website, and for good reason. These candles are crafted with old world techniques, using only the finest blend of waxes. They burn cleanly and for a long period of time. The color choices are fabulous and there are several styles from which to choose. It was wonderful seeing Ken Weiner and Pam Fleischer, the lovely husband and wife team who own Creative Candles. I really enjoyed our in-depth tour of the facility.”

PANERA GIVES BACK — Our friends at Panera Bread, led by Marketing Director Michelle Cole, have been busy conducting charitable activities lately. In October the restaurant chain sponsored the 4th Annual Swing for Life Gold Tournament. The one day event raised more than $25,000 to be donated to Gilda’s Club of Kansas City, an organization that provides networking and support activities to cancer patients. Panera Bread of Kansas also donated 10 cents from every Pink Ribbon Bagel sold and $1 from every baker’s dozen sold during the month of October to Gilda’s Club. Cole noted that due to the “amazing support of our customers, the sales of the Pink Ribbon Bagels and baker’s dozen added another $7,300 for the charity for a grand total of $32, 965.83 to be donated.”